Post #365


8th April 2004, late evening | Comments (30)

A girl and a aboy in a photobooth picture
Dom and Dunstan

I didn’t think I’d ever be able to do it, but today I looked through some photos of my ex-girlfriend, Dominique.

The malaise which I’d feared would descend upon me never appeared, and I managed to muddle by with only the occasional twinge of longing for what has passed.

She was a beautiful girl, in every sense of the word, and it’s nice that at last I can remember her with a smile on my lips, rather than (oh dear God, I can’t believe I’m about to write this) a tear in my eye. (Quick! Call the Cliche Police!)

Daft, but true.

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  1. Dunstan:

    I ought to point out that she's not dead - we just broke up.

    I didn't realise it sounded like that until someone kindly pointed it out :op

    Posted 45 minutes after the fact
  2. Phil Baines:

    It's a very nice cliche though. Here is another one;

    It is better to have loved and lost, that to have never loved at all.

    It's over used, and cliched, but true. Of course I don't know if you lost her, or if she lost you. But by the sounds of it you dont keep in touch any more. Shame. I have managed to stay good friends for most of my past lady friends, and I am going to be an Usher in the wedding of one on May 7th. It is a very odd feeling, but I am happy about it.

    Posted 48 minutes after the fact
  3. Rich:

    Glad to hear it - I was just wondering how she met her end.

    Posted 49 minutes after the fact
  4. Phil Baines:

    *Looks up* ^^ *Dunstan beat me to the first post*

    Yeah I did wonder about that. :)

    Posted 49 minutes after the fact
  5. Ken Walker:

    So, Dunstan, if you were looking for a litmus test to determine if Dom reads your website, this is probably as good as any. ;-)

    No cliches about fish the sea--just hang in there.

    Posted 7 hours, 3 minutes after the fact
    Inspired: ↓ Dunstan
  6. Sergio:

    Good thing you remember the relationship kindly. Always a good thing...

    How long has it been?

    Posted 7 hours, 17 minutes after the fact
    Inspired: ↓ Dunstan
  7. Sian:

    A beautiful girl.

    I've only got one photograph of my ex which I don't think I need to keep anymore, I have my memories after all. It does take time to get over relationships and having good, patient friends around helps. Anyway, I'm patiently waiting for Russ' flight to come in, he's already missed one!

    Posted 8 hours, 55 minutes after the fact
    Inspired: ↓ Dunstan
  8. Dunstan:

    Um... two and a bit years, Sergio. Nice to finally have that monkey off my back :o)

    Posted 12 hours, 26 minutes after the fact
    Inspired by: ↑ Sergio
  9. Dunstan:

    Memories are much more powerful than photos, you're right Sian. I wrote tons about that, but then got rid of it all -- I'm not very good at writing on matters of the heart.

    *Bing Bong*
    Will a Mr Russ please make his way to Wales, where his future wife, Sian, is waiting to collect him. That's a Mr Russ to make his way to Wales. Thank you.
    *Bing Bong*

    Posted 12 hours, 31 minutes after the fact
    Inspired by: ↑ Ken Walker, ↑ Sian
  10. Web:

    "Give a man a fish, he can eat for a day. Teach a man to fish, he will eat for a lifetime"

    Hey everybody else was being cliché' why can't I?

    Sorry to hear about your loss D. I think we all have been in your shoes at some point. You will nab that right Philly some day.

    Posted 14 hours, 53 minutes after the fact
  11. Grayson:

    I know exactly how you feel, Dunstan. My ex broke up with me about 9 months ago, and I'm still not over it. I can't bring myself to look at the many pictures I've taken of her, either. One day, I might even be able to read some of the letters :-)

    It takes a long time, but with good friends you can eventually get over it. Cheers to being able to move on.

    (If you care to say, how long were you together, and how long has it been since you broke up? I'm a nosy sort ;-) )

    Posted 17 hours, 10 minutes after the fact
    Inspired: ↓ Dunstan
  12. Tom Dell'Aringa:

    WIPE THAT TEAR OUT OF YOUR EYE PRIVATE! Now, give me 50 press ups and go rub some Brute on your chest, and don't let it happen again.

    I must now go and tear up some phone books.

    Posted 17 hours, 25 minutes after the fact
    Inspired: ↓ Dunstan
  13. Sam Newman:

    Ack - took me about a year I think to not be sad when looking at old pictures, although I did still get a little melancholy twinge for a while after that. Things have a way of working out though, in some of the strangest possible ways...

    Posted 1 day after the fact
  14. David Barrett:

    "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush"

    My dirty mind tells me this cliche is wrong.

    Posted 1 day, 1 hour after the fact
  15. Dunstan:

    Grayson, we were a couple for a little over a year - living together the whole time - and it's been a little over two years since we broke up.

    Even 12 months after it happened I couldn't bare to visit London (where we'd lived), it takes a long time for those feelings to go away, but they do eventually.

    Good luck :o)

    Posted 1 day, 1 hour after the fact
    Inspired by: ↑ Grayson
  16. Dunstan:

    Ha! Thanks Tom, now I smell like my Dad :oD

    Posted 1 day, 1 hour after the fact
    Inspired by: ↑ Tom Dell'Aringa
    Inspired: ↓ Alastair
  17. Chris:

    Ah, this must be the girl Dunstan wrote about before. "I can't believe... she's gone.". The post had something to do with watching a video film to take away the pain, or something.

    I tried to picture the sort of girl she would look like when I saw the title of the post come up in my RSS feed reader. I had her down for curly brown hair, maybe disco shades. Clearly I was way out!

    She has a nice smile. You were lucky to know her I would say. Now here's another over-used, but always true cliche:

    When one door closes another opens.

    So when Dunstan gets married to THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMAN IN THE WORLD * (TM) he'll look back and not worry about his exes. He'll remember them of course, but times will have changed.

    * That is, unless he is secretly gay! :-D

    Posted 1 day, 1 hour after the fact
  18. Deb:

    Dunstan, you already know my thoughts... Anyway,now I'm looking at the picture and wondering about the photograph itself. Was it taken in a photo-booth? By you? Someone else? On a timer with your camera? If that, how much have you 'messed' with it? What are the photographic particulars? It shows beautifully, here.

    Posted 1 day, 5 hours after the fact
    Inspired: ↓ Dunstan
  19. ACJ:

    What's funny about this, is that a day before this was posted, I spotted my ex for the first time in 2 years or so.
    Did I say "funny"? I meant to say "scary".

    Posted 1 day, 6 hours after the fact
  20. Dunstan:

    Deb, it's just a photobooth picture, taken at Brussles train station (we were on our way back from a (very nice) short holiday to Brugge).

    No tweaking needed :o)

    Posted 1 day, 11 hours after the fact
    Inspired by: ↑ Deb
  21. Rahul:

    Dude, she's cute!

    Who stole my cookies? :(

    Posted 1 day, 21 hours after the fact
    Inspired: ↓ Dunstan
  22. Dunstan:

    I think it's to do with the url - sometimes people visit to:

    and other times to:

    The cookies only work with the www. one.
    I can't figure out how to get around that :o/

    If it's not that then I'm not sure what your problem is - I do know that I vist people's sites sometimes and all my cookie data seems to have vanished - I always wonder what's going on as well.

    Posted 1 day, 21 hours after the fact
    Inspired by: ↑ Rahul
    Inspired: ↓ Dunstan, ↓ Rahul
  23. Dunstan:

    Actually that's a lie - cookies work for me on either url, though I don't understand why :o/

    Posted 1 day, 21 hours after the fact
    Inspired by: ↑ Dunstan
    Inspired: ↓ Rahul
  24. Rahul:

    Oh well. Takes about 20 seconds to fill it out, so it's not really a problem. Stupid cookies. Someone needs to develop a better system for keeping track of this stuff. Maybe something like TypeKey, only more generic...

    Posted 1 day, 22 hours after the fact
    Inspired by: ↑ Dunstan, ↑ Dunstan
    Inspired: ↓ David Barrett
  25. David Barrett:

    It's possible for non-SixApart software to authenticate users with TypeKey. Read the FAQ on their site. Unless that's not what you meant, Rahul.

    Posted 2 days, 3 hours after the fact
    Inspired by: ↑ Rahul
    Inspired: ↓ Rahul
  26. Rahul:

    I was implying some kind of technology to entirely replace the concept of cookies :) TypeKey is heading towards providing a web-wide service that can authenticate regardless of attached backend (MT, LJ, whatever), but it's not performing any technical server-client communication like a cookie in its most basic state is.

    Posted 2 days, 21 hours after the fact
    Inspired by: ↑ David Barrett
  27. Alastair:

    " I smell like my Dad"

    Dad uses Old Spice, not Brute.

    While on this subject, I think you should do a piece on Vosine. My hypothesis is that Dad is the ONLY person on the planet to have bought it - ever. His insatiable thirst (not literally) for the product is single handedly keeping the entire business of manufacturing medicated shampoo alive.


    Posted 3 days, 13 hours after the fact
    Inspired by: ↑ Dunstan
    Inspired: ↓ Dunstan
  28. Dunstan:

    Dad just muttered that "lot's of people use it", but I think you're right, Al; I've never seen that funny little green bottle outside their bathroom.

    Oh, I'm wrong! They've changed it, bottle and all:

    So, now Dad and Melinda Messenger use it. Two peas in a pod...

    Posted 3 days, 14 hours after the fact
    Inspired by: ↑ Alastair
  29. Alastair:

    Both the model and the newly designed Vosine bottle may be beautiful outisde, but I doubt that Melinda smells like a glue factory at peak production during the infamous horse plague of 1486.


    Posted 3 days, 14 hours after the fact
  30. Tim:

    Love is so short. Forgetting is so long.

    --Pablo Neruda

    Posted 1 week, 2 days after the fact

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